Ending

The ending stage is the last stage of the Mentoring relationship. Regardless of the circumstances of a mentoring relationship coming to an end, the closing stage must be acknowledged.

This element of the mentoring relationship should be a planned process, revisited throughout the reviewing of the agreed goals and progress made with Mentee. The ending stage gives both Mentor and Mentee the opportunity to evaluate their experience and celebrate what had been achieved.

Mentees and Mentors are encouraged to be involved in giving formal feedback once their mentoring ends.

It is important to note that closure can occur for any number of reasons including: the agreed match duration has ended, one or both do not want to continue, there are changes in life circumstances of either the mentor or mentee, or an individual no longer meets the requirements for the programme.

In any event it should be handled sensitively to avoid the mentee feeling abandoned or let down.

The planned ending stage is typically summarised by the following points:

  • Identifying that the Mentee is no longer in need of support
  • Plan an ending to the relationship
  • Leaving the door open for the future
  • Developing new goals
  • Recognising achievements
  • Encourage independence and social integration
Mentee:
“Try to reflect on what has worked in the relationship and why it worked. It has helped me with other relationships, even with friends and family.”
Mentor:
“This stage should take place, no matter what has happened or if the relationship is ending early. It is only fair that both people have closure and experience a healthy boundary in a relationship. You feel more confidence once you have been through this stage as it can be awkward.”